sex

can i first say that it was so nice to have a day off where i didn't even have to go to kung fu.
i did whatever i wanted, it was awesome!
first time since valentines, i think.

anyway.leanora saw the title of one of my chapters and wanted a report on it.
its titled: "How We Pick Our Mates and Sex Partners"
(remember how he's all about extramarital sex, that's why he includes both).

so i'll try to keep this short so that more people actually read it.
however, i think that what leanora was expecting to get out of it isn't exactly what she had in mind...
diamond goes to say that people tend to choose 90% of the time, people who share their own religious beliefs, ethnicity, social/financial status, etc.
probably just due to the fact that those are the people you fraternize with the most.
when it comes to looks/physical appearance, diamond came to the conclusion that people look for a mate who resembles the people that you grew up with, be it mom, dad, sister, brother, foster family, whatever.
just people that you knew and associated with on a fairly regular basis before the age of seven.
BUT!
this doesn't mean that you want to shack up with your mom or dad like oedipus or electra.
there is some sort of inherent incest-phobia that dwells inside most of us.(sorry ozarks).
its something that puts you off from the people you grew up with, that 6 year span previously mentioned.
in something called a kibbutzim, which seemed to be explained to be something like an jewish orphanage or boarding school, someone tracked 2,769 marriages from the co-ed kids that came from that place.
with all that interaction, where these kids grow from birth til young adulthood, only 13 marriages were with kids within that kibbutzim, and of those thirteen, all were from kids who arrived there after the age of 6.

so what about this incest thing?
it seems that when studies were done on quails, who knew none of their relatives, when placed with their 1st cousin and sister, the male quail picked the cousin. when placed with their 1st and third cousin, the quail again picked the 1st cousin. seems people pick those who look like them.
but if you're wondering about inter racial marriages, it seems that like that kibbutzim, who you grow up with affects who you find attractive, so if an asian child is reared in a predominantly white neighborhood, they'll be more likely to go for white guys.

but overall i think physical similarities is the drawing factor.
those random things you probably don't even think about...
diamond kept mentioning earlobe length, middle finger length, and spacing of the eyes.
i guess, he says that you're looking for is something like mom or dad, but just in a different person.
kinda weird. but think about your "type".
does it resemble anyone you grew up with?
(as gruesome as it may be to try)